You’ve probably heard someone say,
“Just raise your frequency.”

As if that’s something you can do by thinking happy thoughts or waving some sage around and calling it a day.

But the truth is—no one really talks about how.

Because real energetic magnetism isn’t just about mindset.
It’s not just about thinking positively or manifesting hard enough.

It’s about shifting the actual state your body is operating in.

And that starts with sealing your energy leaks.

Start Here: Stop Leaking Energy
Before you can raise your frequency, you need to protect what’s already there.

If your energy is constantly draining through:

Overthinking

People-pleasing

Shrinking to be accepted

Spinning out in self-doubt

…then there’s not much left to attract with.

That’s magnetism 101.

You have to hold your own energy first—otherwise, everything you want to call in just slips through the cracks.

Once those leaks are patched, then we focus on raising your frequency.

How to Raise Your Frequency for Real (Not Just Pretend)
This isn’t about forcing positivity.
It’s about reconnecting with your power—subtly, somatically, and energetically.

Here’s where I start:

Step 1: Release What’s Taking Up Space in Your Field
Energetically and emotionally.

I recently did a cord-cutting ritual to clear something I had been holding onto for way too long. It wasn’t about perfection. It was about permission—to let go, to clear, to lighten.

If you’re holding onto resentment, tension, frustration, or unspoken fear—it lingers.
Not just in your mind, but in your energetic field.

You don’t need to process every memory.
But your body needs a chance to move what it’s been holding.

That release creates space for something new to rise.

Step 2: Use Nervous System Tools That Actually Shift Your State
This is the part most people skip—but it changes everything.

Nervous system regulation isn’t just about calming down.
It’s about returning to a state that supports magnetism—clarity, openness, alignment.

Take sound healing, for example.
When you listen to a sound bath (especially ones tuned to healing frequencies like 432Hz) your internal rhythm begins to slow.
Your brain shifts out of high-alert and into deeper states (like alpha or theta), where creativity, regulation, and rest become available.

Why does that matter for frequency?

Because when your system is regulated, you stop giving off tension, urgency, and over-efforting.
Instead, you radiate calm, grounded presence.
And that’s what people respond to.

That’s what draws in aligned relationships, opportunities, and ease.
Not the fake high vibes—but the real resonance.

Your Frequency Is Your Signal
You don’t have to force your energy to be “high.”
You don’t have to pretend everything’s fine to attract what’s meant for you.
You just have to start where you are—and gently raise your frequency, one real practice at a time.

In my next post, I’ll share one of my go-to energy resets.
Nothing fancy—just something real I come back to when I feel off, stuck, or like I’m spiraling.